The warmth of stability
Infatuation without doubt, and without the roller-coaster of feelings is a blessing. After a life time of emotional instability, this oasis of calm affection is a home I want to settle in. What a difference it makes to date someone with healthy attachment models. As St, and I talk about our childhoods, we can see the difference it makes to have a stable family.
Regardless of his challenges, he was supported, and consistently encouraged leading him to a successful career, good habits, and a nurturing social circle. The one thing he struggled with was that his short stature got him friend zoned a lot. Though that never stopped him building a good self-esteem, and stay kind and caring to all women. Entering the emotional world of a emotionally healthy man is a delight at every steps.
I now know that intensity can be found in harmony. Having lived the dramatic misconceptions of romance, I can tell I’m building healthy attachment — a much welcomed change. Growing feelings for someone who was functional, and happy when single makes all the difference. Wanting someone without being desperate for affection is a shift. We both can function perfectly on our own while both valuing good company. The equilibrium me, and us is balancing well so far.
Going back to my favourite bedtime routine, with myself, and my thoughts, without fearing that I may not give ento my new partner is refreshing. I don’t need to constantly communicate, reassure, or charm. Having been best friends in the past, I know who I am is enough. Being ourselves is what works. I can carry on in my day-to-day activities confident, and carefree. He will be there when I need him, and so will I. We can lean on eachother without burdening one another. We can ride the flow of our romance peacefully.
I rested some more while advancing in my physics homework. I did some grocery shopping with my lab patner from last semester, and took time to catchup. The large part of my move is planned for Monday. I’m eager to settle in my new nest. One step at a time, my life improves.